Top Three Mistakes People Make During Child Custody Cases

29 December 2015
 Categories: Law, Blog


Your child custody battle is going to have a huge impact on the future of your family. As such, it's important to avoid making big mistakes during the case that could negatively impact the lives of both you and your child. 

Unfortunately, those involved in a child custody battle are often reacting more based on emotion than on reason. This leaves them susceptible to losing control and not thinking enough about the consequences developments in the case will have on the future. 

The following are the three most important mistakes to avoid during your child custody battle:

Losing sight of the child's best interests

It's often difficult for parents involved in a child custody battle to objectively consider who the child should really be with. If your ex-spouse is better able to provide financially or emotionally for your child, make sure you're realizing this and factoring it into the decisions you're making. 

The most important thing is to look out for your child's best interests. You're not going to be happy after winning custody rights if you've completely destroyed your relationship with your child in the process. Make sure that your child is one day going to see that you did what was best for him or her during this sensitive time after the dissolution of your marriage. 

Completely shutting the ex-spouse out of the child's life

Parents who are very emotional after a recent divorce often feel that they want to shut their ex-spouse out of their lives entirely. However, this isn't usually possible if your child is going to be maintaining a relationship with the ex-spouse. Completely shutting the ex-spouse out of your child's life won't only have financial repercussions, but emotional and logistical repercussions as well. 

Years down the road, much of the emotion you're feeling right after your divorce will likely be gone. Hopefully, in its place will be an appreciation for the good relationships your child has with BOTH his or her parents. 

Creating a situation that the child can easily manipulate to his or her advantage

When two people divorce, the communication channel between them often becomes complicated or ceases to exist. It's important for parents to be aware of the fact that children are smart and will use this lack of communication to their advantage.

Maintaining open and civil communication with your spouse throughout the proceedings is important to staying aware of exactly what's going on in your child's life at all times. If you've found yourself in a situation where you need to figure out custody arrangements for your children, a child custody lawyer like Law Offices of Gordon Liebmann or others can help.